Do you find yourself repeating the same patterns despite the unpleasant outcome? Is poor communication, anger, addiction or infidelity threatening your marriage or relationships?
Do you resolve to change your behavior, so that things will turn out differently, but eventually find yourself caught up in old patterns?
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despite your effort to change your behavior, the result are not effecting the kind of change you desire?
Life experiences have probably taught you that solutions to life’s problems are not as simple as just changing one's behavior. Many behaviors are learned to protect the person, and therefore the unconscious mind resists attempts to eliminate its protection. Counselling helps people get in touch with what is at the root of problematic behaviors. As you discover, through counselling, what motivates the behavior, so many more possibilities for change become available to you.
I believe people possess the skills within them to find wholeness, and therefore my style of counselling is not to offer my solutions. As your therapist, I see my job as coming along side of you, to walk with you as you discover who you are and what makes you you. I do this by asking you questions that are aimed at getting you to think differently about things. I do not view behaviors as good or bad, right or wrong, but rather see behaviors as having valuable information to teach us about you and what makes you tick. The feelings of shame that come with angry outburst, infidelity, depression, sexual addictions and marriage problems can cause people to avoid getting help or even admitting to themselves or others they have a problem. Counselling can be a safe place to examine, without shame, the behavior and how it has come to be a part of your life.